(爱情激情是什么)爱情中的激情是什么激素

爱情的三个要素：热情、理解和实践。我认为应该有完整的爱，美丽的爱，这三个要素。一个不可缺少。（威廉莎士比亚，哈姆雷特，爱情名言）

The three elements of love:passion,understanding,ac think a complete love ,a beautiful love, it must has these three elements,and they are indispensable.

激情是爱情中最感性的一个元素，理解则相对来说是一个比较理性的元素，而践行，是把感性和理性落到实处，化为生活的事实。这三种元素缺一不可，因为只有当感性、理性、生活事实这三者同时具备的时候，你才能说你的爱情是全身心的爱情。

Passion is the most emotinal element in love. Understanding is relatively rational element. Action is the fact that sensibility and rationality are implemented and turn into li three elements are indispensable,because only when sensibility, rationality, life are available at the same time,you just can say your love is full-hearted love

首先什么叫激情？

有这么一个人，点燃了你的爱意，使你产生了浓浓的兴趣和好感，你情不自禁地受到吸引，他的魅力让你无法抗拒。一看到他你就会心跳脸红，你移开了你的目光，却怎么也移不开你的心，这就是激情。

First what is passion?

Such a person that ignites your love and makes you have strong interest and effection,you can not help being attracted,his charm makes you irre you see him, you will be blusting,and when you remove your gaze,but you can not remove you heart, it is passion.

当他出现的时候，空间会发生凹凸，其他人都只是背景，只有他一个人凸显在背景之外。那一刻你只看见了他，听见了他，其他人或事都恍恍惚惚，因为你恍恍惚惚。这就是激情。而当你筋疲力尽，什么也不想做，什么也不愿想，什么也不想听的时候，你却还是想见到他，还是很愿意听到他，他对你来说就是打鸡血，你总是额外地为他准备了一份热情。这就是激情。

When he appears,the space would be bumpy,everyone else is just a background,Only he is highlighted outside the background.At that you see him, hear him,everyone else or evreything are unclear,it is passion. When you are exhausted, do not want to do anything, do not want to think anymore,do not want to hear anything,you just want to see him,and would like to hear anythig about him,you are cheered up by him,your extra enthusiasm are always prepare for him,this is Passion.

爱情的第二个元素——理解。

The second element of love is understanding

唯有真知才能带来真爱。如果你根本不懂我，又凭什么说你爱我？你爱的是糖，但你不知道我其实是盐，你老想让我拼命地变甜，但我的真实味道其实是咸；你爱的是空中的飞鸟，但我却是海中的一条鱼，你爱我的方式是要我展翅飞翔，却不知道我的人生本该是一场深海的悠游。你根本不懂我，凭什么说你爱我？你想让我成为我所不是的那个人，你凭什么说你爱我？你有什么权利用这种方式来爱我？唯有真知才能带来真爱，如果你不懂我，你爱的真的是我吗？

Only true knowledge can bring true love. If you don't understand me at all, why do you say that you love me?You love sugar, but you don't know that I am actually salt. You always want me to desperately sweeten,but my true taste is actually salty,you love the birds in the sky, but I am a fish in the sea. The way you love me is to fly in the sky,but you don't know my life is supposed to be swimming in the actually don't understand me,why do you say you love me?you want me to be the one that I don't want to be.Why do you still say you love me? Do you have droit to love me in this way?Only true know can bring true love.If you don't understand me, what do you really love me?

真正的爱，不是强迫你成为我想让你成为的样子，而是我用心地读懂你，然后尽心尽力帮助你成为你自己。真正的爱不是把你变成你所不是的人，而是深刻地了解你，然后让你做你自己，让你活成真实的你.

True love doesn't force you to be what I want you to be,but I read you with my true heart and then try to help you become your love does not mean to turn you into someone you do not want to be,but to understand you deeply,and then let you be yourself and let you live to be true to you.

在你越来越懂他的过程中，其实还有一件事也在发生——你会越来越懂你自己。当你越来越看清什么使你心动，什么是你的心之所爱，你也就越来越明白自己是个怎样的人。你深爱的品质，往往就是你渴望成为的自己。

你会发现，你越来越喜欢那个和他在一起的你，当你不爱任何人，你的心就是空的，空荡荡的心是那么孤独；当你有了他，有了爱，你的心、你的生命就被爱充满了，你们的存在填补了各自灵魂的饥饿，于是孤独感就消散了。

In the process of getting to know him more and more,actually one thing is happen at the same time is that you are getting to know yourself more and more. as you become more and more aware of what makes you heartbeat and what is your heart's love,you become more and more aware of who you are. The quality of you love is always the one you desire to be.you will discover that you more and more like the one who is with you do not love anyone, your heart is empty,the empty heart is loneliness,when you have him,you got a love,your heart and life are full filled with love,your existence fills the soul hunger,so the loneliness is dissipated.

平常当我们说到“亲密”这个词的时候，总会联想到一些身体上的亲密——接吻、拥抱、爱抚……其实除了精神之间互知互懂的亲密，哪里还有真正的亲密？身体的亲密终究不能消除两个精神世界之间的墙，而理解是灵魂之间唯一的桥梁，它能沟通两个原本互不相关的存在。当电流与电流接通，会带来驱散黑暗的灯火通明，在光明中，我们能看清一切；而当存在与存在相互连接，它接通的是一个精神的光源，带给我们内在的光明。在这光明里，你看清了——有人懂你，你也懂他，而透过你对他的懂，你更懂你自己了。当一个人被人懂，当一个人自己懂自己，他就不是孤独的。即使他是独自一人，他也不孤独，因为有一个懂他的人、懂他的心在看不到的地方与他相契，与他同在。

We usually talk about a word:"intimacy". We always think some physical intimacy-Kissing, Hugging, caressing, acutally beside the intimacy of mutual understanding, where is the real intimacy? The physical intimacy can not eliminate the wall between the spiritual world of yours after all,and understanding is the only bridge between souls that communicates two otherwise unrelate exi the current are connected,it can bring a light to dispel the darkness,in the light, we can see everything clearly,and when there is a connection with existence,it is connected to a spiritual light source,bring us the inner light,in this light,you see it clearly,you know him,he knows you,and through your understanding of him,you know yourself better,When a person is understood, when a person knows himself, he is not alone. Even he is loneliness,he does not feel lonely,there is a person who knows him, knows his heart and can not see where he is, and is with him.

当你懂他之后，依然痴心不减，你的痴情才会变成款款深情。

After you know him,you are still infatuated,and your infatuation will become a deep effection.

所以什么叫作深情？你了解他是个什么样的人，你爱的就是这样一个他；你了解他最真实的样子，你爱这个真实的他。你见过他最美丽的时候，也见过他最糟糕、最丑陋的时候；你见过他最能干、最得意的时候，也见过他最失落、最狼狈的时候。在他最失落、最狼狈的时候，你还是想拥抱他，你还是愿意接受这样一个他，还是想吻他，并且去爱他，你真的懂他，懂他是个怎样的人，懂他的好与不好，懂他那些和你不一样的地方，懂他很不完美，但你还是爱这样一个不完美的他，爱他这个真实的不完美的人，这个才是真正的深情。

So what it is call effectionate? You know what kind of person he is,you like such of him,you know his truest look,you love this real him. You have seen him in the most wonderful time,the worst time, the most capable and proud time,the most frustrated and lost time,you still want to hug him,you are still willing to accept such a person,kiss him,love him, you really understand him,know how is he,understand his good and bad,know something different from you,know he is imprefect,but you still accpet such a imprefect person,it is really effectionnate love.

最后我们来讲讲爱情的第三大元素——践行。

Fanlly we talk about the third element of love-action

一个人心里总是有一片很深的善意，但他却从来不把它落实为行动，那就不是真正的善。同样，如果一个人空有爱心，空有爱意，却从来都没有践行，没有爱的实际行动，那也不是真正的爱。

There is always a deep goodwill in the person's heart,but he never implement it as action,that is not true goodwill. Similary, if a person just has

love,but never practice,without action of love,that is not a true love.

比如，我经常对你说“我爱你”，我也觉得我真的很爱你，但是我从来不愿意跟你同甘共苦，也从来不愿意为我们的爱情而战斗。当爱情出现挫折的时候，我脑子里经常想的是放弃——放弃这段感情、放弃你。这就是我所说的，空有爱意，却从不践行。这种情况，在日常生活中也挺多的。

For example,I ofen say I love you,I think I really love you,but I never willing to stick with you through thick and thin,and never willing to fight for our love. When the frustration is appeared in our love,my mind is always give up our relationship,give up you,it is what I say,just empty love but without action of love. In this condition,there is also a lot in daily life.

还有一种情况，我觉得我很爱你，我是如此地爱你，深刻地爱你，所以我常常情不自禁地说“我爱你”，但是我对你保留了最多的秘密，我对你最不坦诚。这也是空有爱意，却从不践行。

Another situation, I feel I love you very much ,love you deeply,so I can not help but say:"I love you",but I have kept the most secrets for you. It is also empty love without action of love.

还有一种情况，我说“我很爱你”，但是我从不认真听你的倾诉，从不想要深刻地了解你的心事。在我作任何重要决定的时候，我想到的只有我自己，我很少真正为你着想，很少把你放在我人生计划的重要位置……这也是空有爱意，却从不践行。

there is another situation,I say I love you,but I never listen to you when you are confiding,never want to know your mind. When I make a important decision,I often just thinking about myself,seldom thinking about you,I rarely put you in an imoprtant position in my life. It is also empty love,without action of love.

所以，对于真正的爱情，践行非常重要。你爱我是吧？你要对我好是吧？你要给我幸福是吧？那就说到做到！Just do it！重要的不是说，而是真正有所行动。不是当你说出“我爱你”这句话的时候，爱情就终结了，“我爱你”只不过是爱情的开始，重要的是接下来你要有爱的行动。爱的行动，才是爱的证明，没有行动，一切都是空洞。所以真正的爱情，就是你要真正为对方着想，真正给对方时间与关怀，很多时候，他的利益就是比我的利益更加重要，这才是真正的爱情。

Therefore, for true love, action of love is very important. you say you love me? you want to be nice to me? want to give me happiness? Then Let's do it! just do it! what is important is not to say,but to acutally act.It is not the end of love when you say you love me,it is just a beginning of love,The important thing is that you have to act with love. the action of love is the proof of love,without action,everything of love is empty,so the true love is that you really want to think about each other,give each other time and care,in most time,his benefit is more important than mine.This is true love.

总结三大爱情元素，看上去好像彼此独立，但其实是环环相扣、缺一不可的。爱情是全身心的，激情、理解、践行——“激情”意味着我爱上了你，“理解”意味着我懂你，“践行”意味着我愿意陪你一路同行，不离不弃。只有当这三者合并在一起，才叫全身心，只有这三个要素都存在的时候，才是所谓:“我爱你”。

Summarizing three elements of love,It seems that they are independent of each other,but acutally they are coherent and indispensable. Love is wholeheart ,passion,understanding,action. Passion means I love you, Understanding means I know you, action means I am willing to accompany with you,never give up. Only when these three elements are merged together is the whole heart, only when these three elements exist,it is called I love you.

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