爱情中什么最重要英语对话

有喜欢的对象，却不能开口吗？

我计划了一次浪漫的约会，你怕怯场吗？

当520接近眼前时，大脑像突然中断一样空荡荡。

爱情面前手忙脚乱，还有歪果仁~还有大招，当然也不说话。

海外著名社交新闻网站redit:你收到的最好的约会建议是什么？

出现问题，怎么掐，爆出无数爱情高手，一个人这么说是道。让我怀疑本军过去几年没有白活四年。(说多了就是眼泪，小伙伴们年轻的时候多学一点吧~)

“第一次约会？你们肯定会因为胡说而紧张。笑一笑就行了，不要破坏难得的约定~”

from bojack horseman : ' when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses，all the red flags just look liks

情人眼里出西施，但要打起精神来喂。)。

"见面时手机不离手吗？回来后短信不晚点回来吗？死心吧，她多半对你不感兴趣。”

if she ' s always on her phone when you see her but takes hours to reply to your texts，she's not interested，bro

“知道自己想找什么样的，可以参考，但卡不会太死。(莎士比亚)。

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（不少网友们高呼：最终找到的“良人”都严重偏离设定轨道……）

“对楼上做个补充——千万表让你的女票知道她并非完完全全都是你的菜。”

（已经说过了的童鞋请自备活血化瘀疗伤物品，世纪君只能帮你到这儿了……）

“划重点！！！别总想着控制对方，清楚自己的底线，啥能接受啥不能接受就行~”

-You can't control your partner.

Your partner will do things you don't want them to, you just have to decide what's a deal breaker.

-This one's really important, but requires a certain level of maturity and security.

马上学

爱情里底线真的很重要。英文中，a red line的字面意思是“红色警戒线”，引申为“不可触碰的底线”。Cross the red line意为“触碰底线”。此外，“底线”还可以用bottom line，baseline来表示。

“感情没人喜欢单方面的付出，但也没必要啥啥都分得那么清楚明白。比较好的状态是，两个人都想成为那个为对方付出多的人~”

While you absolutely don't want a one-sided relationship as a whole, you don't have to be perfectly fair for everything. Things like who drives more or who pays more or who plans what to do or who initiates intimacy can be skewed to one side.

A good relationship should be split 60/40, with both people trying to be the 60.

（哎呀呀，看着都透着小甜蜜~）

马上学

这位歪果仁提到的one-sided既可以表示片面的，也可以表示单方面的。若想表示单方面的感情、单相思，英文可以用unrequited passion 或lovelorn （害相思病的）来表示。

“万事皆有遗憾，别过于追求完美。”

You can have anything you want.... you can't have everything you want - My Father

（突然想到了老妈经常唠叨的那句：也不能啥啥都随了你的心意是不，要学会接受生活中的不完美……）

“牢记：你不欠任何人一个约会~对方人再好，没感觉照样不行！

同样的，分手不是协商，不是一定要列举原因，别相信什么沉没成本谬论。

此外，还要小心那些总说别人对不起TA的人，因为很快你可能也会被加进TA的黑名单。”

You don't owe anyone a date/relationship. Yes, s/he may be a nice person, but if you're not attracted to them, you're not attracted to them. Nice isn't enough.

A breakup is not a negotiation, and you can break up with someone for any reason at any time. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

Exercise a lot of caution around someone who has an extensive list of people who have wronged them. It won't be long until you're added to it.

“如果你身边的亲友都不看好这段感情，或许，你真的该考虑考虑……”

If your family and friends are telling you it's an unhealthy/bad relationship, you should listen.

“爱情仿佛一场数字游戏，取胜的关键在于学会付出与拒绝。

打个比方，有时候，约会双方一个是冰淇淋，一个是意大利面。它们都很好吃，但却未必适合一起吃。

也许冰淇淋需要的是糖浆，意大利面需要的则是肉丸。

换句话说，如果觉得不合适，那就别再纠缠。

不是分手就一定要有原因。很多人很优秀，只是不一定适合彼此。

拒绝的时候，直接，礼貌，这就够了。

也许对方会问为什么。但是很多时候，就是一个是冰淇淋一个是意大利面，实在凑不到一块。

所以，当别人拒绝你时，可能也是这样，不是你不够优秀，只是不合适。”

It's a numbers game, and the best way to succeed is to learn to give and take rejection well.

A lot of dating is just ice cream and spaghetti situations, they are both delicious, but not necessarily together. Maybe ice cream needs hot fudge and spaghetti needs meatballs.

In other words, don't stick around if you get the feeling things aren't right for you, you don't need a big reason to leave -- lots of people are great, just not as a partner for you. Be direct and polite letting someone go, but that is really all you are responsible for. They may beg you for a "reason," but most of the time, like I said, there really isn't one. Ice cream and spaghetti.

By the same logic, learn to see people deciding not to keep seeing you as not necessarily personal.

“爱情是两个人的事情，是两人携手并肩解决问题的美好旅程。”

“别绕圈子，直截了当的说出你的爱~即使被拒绝，你的勇气也依旧强过那些不敢表白的人~”

"Don't beat around the bush and try to win a girl over with subtle hints, just go tell her you like her. Even if she says "no", she will still respect you above all the other men who don't have the balls to approach her." - Cousin

马上学

这位歪果仁提到的表达beat around the bush很形象~Beat指“拍打”，bush为“灌木丛”。打猎时，猎手们为了让灌木丛中的动物跑出来，就用棍子在灌木丛旁边敲击，动物受到惊吓后就跑了出来，这样就方便猎人狩猎了。后来这个习语被引申为“拐弯抹角、闪烁其词、说话绕圈子”等意思。

“切记：做真正的自己。伪装得来的爱情经不住时间的考验。”

Be yourself. If it doesn't work for them, it won't work for you in the long run, either.

“学会独处前不必急着去恋爱。千万别仅仅为了身边有个伴去恋爱。

因为爱而选择在一起，而不是为了填补一个空白。对刚刚分手的人尤其如此……”

Don't worry about dating until you're content alone. If you're looking to date just to be with someone, you probably shouldn't be looking to date. You should want to be with that person, not just be with a person. Goes doubly if you're recently out of a relationship.

歪果“恋爱导师”说了这么多，你想好明天要怎么表白了嘛？你又有啥恋爱经验要分享呢？评论区期待你萌的支招哦~

当然，在此之前，你需要一个蓝盆友/吕盆友……

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